Sexual relationship is part of life. Back home, what was thought to us as Persian immigrants was to ignore this part of our physical / emotional human being nature until very late in our 20s. Therefore, compare to someone who has been raised in a western country, we are truly immature. Does that mean the way we have been raised was incorrect?? Personally, I try not to compare the difference between these two types of educational style. My sole goal is just to acknowledge the differences and maybe in future posts, with help of you; dear reader, we would have a deeper discussion about that.
Now that we are acknowledged about these two types of educational systems, its time to know some basic facts about sexual life:
- Sex is a part of private lives of a couple whether they give it high importance
- How important it is? It all depends on the degree of importance you give it,for some people it is less important for some it is more. Have you seen people that when they want to choose their future partner first thing they have in mind is the looks, be sure they give importance to sex more than others.
- Can you give it 0 percent importance? No. If you do, most likely your marriage is going in a wrong direction, sooner or later you will end up in a court.
So what is the correct direction in the Sexual life of a partner?! To determine the correct direction, both partners should talk about Sex and always be honest about everything; if Sex is very important for one of them, he/she should express it directly; say to his/her partner that he/she wants Sex every day. Partners should be honest about it, and if love is there they can accommodate each other and fill each other needs.
Conclusively, the frequency of having SEX is not the same for all partners. It depends on mutual needs of them. Partners are who should decide what they want. They should talk honestly with each other about their sexual needs and come up with a number which satisfies the both parties, so at the end who cares what is the average number is.